What Is Love, Really? Discovering Love as Pure Energy

We’ve all heard different definitions of love. Growing up, we’re told, “This is love” or “That is love.” We absorb these ideas—love as an action, a feeling, or something given and received through certain behaviors.

But what if love isn’t just about actions or feelings?

At its core, love is a type of energy.

You can go through the motions of what someone calls “love,” but without the true energy of love behind it, it’s just an action of no consequence.

Think about it: how many times have you tried to show love, but something felt missing in the action? Or perhaps someone told you they loved you, yet you didn’t feel it. The words and actions were there, but the energy wasn’t—leaving you disconnected.

If love is pure, why does it sometimes feel like pain?

• When someone says “I love you” but really means “I expect you to act this way,” love becomes tangled with control.
  
  

• In families, love can be used as obligation: “I love you, so I know what’s best for you. Therefore, do what I say.”
  
  

• Love turns into rules—whether self-imposed or handed down—that confine you instead of freeing you. For example: “If you love me, it means coming home by 8pm every evening and taking me out to dinner twice a week.”
  
  

• Two people with different ideas of love may trigger each other’s wounds, leaving the experience far from loving. One person insists, “Love means validating my opinions,” while the other insists, “No, love means doing things for you.” The mismatch creates conflict instead of connection.
  
  

Over time, love gets clouded by expectations, control, and unhealed wounds. People carry artificial constructs about what love is from family, culture, and past experiences. These distortions make love feel heavy, when in truth, love is the purest, most liberating energy there is.

Not at all. Love isn’t about doing nothing.

When you’re connected to pure love energy, you may be moved to act—but your action flows from love itself, not from past wounds or mental ideas. It’s not “I should do this to show love” but rather, “Love moves me to do this.”

This is the difference between what you think is loving and authentic action from true love.

Pause for a moment. Notice how you feel after swiping your hand down the love graphic. This isn’t about forcing a feeling—it’s about simply receiving and noticing what love energy feels like.

• Have you ever acted out love without really feeling it?
  
  

• Can you sense this new energy flowing into you now?
  
  

• How does your body respond when you allow yourself to simply receive love, free of conditions?
  
  

If you’re open, swipe your hands down the image again. Let yourself go deeper into the experience of pure love.